Come as you are! Bras optional.



Bras have been completely optional since the beginning of the pandemic. Oh, and don't even get me started on jeans. I don't even know where mine are!  I have lowered my standards dramatically for 

  • ⁣What kind of snacks are acceptable for Baby Zand. ⁣

  • ⁣Our home-cooked meals. ⁣

  • ⁣How Baby Zand’s toys don’t take over the entire house (they do!!!! Even under my pillow I find random things from her.) ⁣

  • ⁣How many hours are acceptable screen time. ⁣

  • ⁣And how messy I show up at work calls with Baby Zand yelling “potty” in the background and puppy Haigo barking at the deer in the yard. ⁣

⁣ Professionalism has gone out the door. The mom who keeps it together all day hasn’t shown up in months. ⁣ ⁣ And guess what has also left? ⁣ ⁣ Mommy guilt! ⁣ ⁣ We broke up. I felt so guilty in the beginning when my lighting wasn’t ideal for the videos I was shooting. When there was just the tiniest noise of another human being breathing in the house. When Baby Zand ate her third granola bar of the day.⁣ ⁣ What did that mommy guilt give me? ⁣ ⁣ Sleepless nights! ⁣ ⁣ Constant anxiety so that I wasn’t able to eat or would overstuff myself on comfort food (ice cream and chocolate). ⁣ Heart palpations and complete dizziness in the middle of the day - so bad that I would have to lie down while playing picnic with every stuffed animal we own. ⁣ ⁣ And most of all, it made me freeze in life. I wanted to pull the duvet over my head and not do anything for this wonderful community on the blog and in social media, I didn’t want to talk to friends, and I didn’t want to show up for another day of Zoom calls. ⁣ ⁣ Until I realized that mommy guilt was sucking the joy out of my life and that everyone was having a hard time showing up. ⁣ ⁣ Everyone would understand the child climbing on me while I was trying to explain the concept of rancid fats in the arteries. ⁣ ⁣ Everyone would understand that my emails had typos. ⁣ ⁣ And everyone would understand that I need some sleep and sometimes just can’t show up at all. ⁣ ⁣ Is it time for you to drop the mommy guilt during this pandemic and just know you’re doing the best you can? ⁣ ⁣ Come and join the virtual Wellness Week for moms to take care of yourself. Because when mamas thrive, everyone thrives.


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